2019 Royal Dragonfly Book Award Winners


Grand Prize Winner:

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 I'm Your Daughter, Julie: Caring for a Parent with Dementia by Julie A. Gorges


$100 Drawing Winner:

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The Toronto Embryo by Judith Fournie Helms

 

Activity Books

1st Place: Albert by Beth W. Roberts

2nd Place: Myself, My Responsibility: Tools to Self-advocate by Lori Ciccarelli Stotko, MPS, Jeremy Brooks

Honorable Mention:

Chloe Counting Workbook by Suzan Johnson, Tiffany Doherty

 
Aging/Senior Living

1st Place: I'm Your Daughter, Julie: Caring for a Parent with Dementia by Julie A. Gorges

 

Animals/Pets

1st Place: Coco & Olive: The Color of Love by Michelle Madrid-Branch with Eviana Tiblet Branch, Erin Darling

2nd Place: The Magical Journey Bob Crane by Karen Nicksich, Pam Sharp

               

 Audiobooks

1st Place: Shadowed by Death: An Oliver Wright WWII Mystery by Mary Adler

2nd Place (tie): Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer

2nd Place (tie): Code 7: Cracking the Code for an Epic Life by Bryan R. Johnson

Honorable Mention:

The Right Staff by Debra Spence


Best Cover Design

1st Place: Cami Kangaroo Has Too Much Stuff! by Stacy C. Bauer, Rebecca Sinclair

2nd Place: The Wonderful Adventures of Wandering Willy & Wendy: Willy Visits Japan by Charles Winslow and Brandon Taylor

 
Best Illustrations

1st Place (tie): Albert by Beth W. Roberts

1st Place (tie): Ellie and Her Emotional Dragons by Joseph Goodrich, Traci Van Wagoner

2nd Place: Cami Kangaroo Has Too Many Sweets! by Stacy C. Bauer, Rebecca Sinclair

Honorable Mention:

Relay by Roy Lieberman                              

Jet & Scoot: A Story About Us by Stephanie Smith-Kenny, Lauren Looney

Tex the Explorer: Journey Around the Earth by Ellie Smith, Eyen Johnson          

 

 Best Interior Design

1st Place: Kia and Klondike's Adventures by Anna Grob

2nd Place: One Little Bella by Georgina Schroeder, Sam Balling

Honorable Mention:

The Magical Journey Bob Crane by Karen Nicksich, Pam Sharp

 
Biography/Autobiography/Memoir

1st Place: How Languages Saved Me: A Polish Story of Survival by Tadeusz Haska and Stefanie Naumann         

2nd Place: Mother of Souls: The Story of a Holocaust Survivor by Adena Astrowsky

Honorable Mention:

Midpoint by James Hill 

 
Book Flyer

1st Place: Yazzy's Amazing Yarn by Cathey Nickell, Emily Calimlim          

2nd Place: Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer

  

Book Trailer

1st Place: Your Body's Environmental Chemical Burden by Cindy Klement         

2nd Place: The Sheriff's Catch by James Vella-Bardon

Honorable Mention:

Spreading Her Wings (Butterfly Princess) by Alisa Hope Wagner, Albert Morales

Yazzy's Amazing Yarn by Cathey Nickell, Emily Calimlim               

 

Bookmark

1st Place: Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer  

 

Business & Finance

1st Place: RetireSMART! by Mark Anthony Grimaldi

2nd Place: The Right Staff by Debra Spence

  

Chapter Books

1st Place: Growing Up Behind the Scenes by Deborah Smith Ford, Susi Galloway

2nd Place: On The Little Apple by Deborah Smith Ford, Susi Galloway

Honorable Mention:

A Little Goat in Africa by Deborah Smith Ford, Susi Galloway   

  

Children’s Poetry

1st Place (tie): Whinny Nicker Neigh: Equine Interviews by Shellby Young         

1st Place (tie): Whinny Nicker Neigh: Mountain Mustangs by Shellby Young     

1st Place (tie): Whinny Nicker Neigh: Pony Poetry by Shellby Young

2nd Place: Gibber, Animal Acrostics by Raven Howell

Honorable Mention:

YOU - ME: Poetry for kids by kids by Gabriela Aliaga and Adrian Aliaga

  

Coffee Table/Gift Books

Honorable Mention: Mondays in October by Sheree K. Nielsen             

 

Cultural Diversity

Honorable Mention: The Wonderful Adventures of Wandering Willy & Wendy: Willy Visits Japan by Charles Winslow and Brandon Taylor

 

Educational

1st Place: One School's Journey by Eleanor K. Smith and Margaret Pastor

2nd Place (tie): Myself, My Responsibility: Tools to Self-advocate by Lori Ciccarelli Stotko, MPS, Jeremy Brooks               

2nd Place (tie): Careering: The Pocket Guide to Exploring Your Future Career by Tamara Raymond

Honorable Mention:

The Awesome Reading Adventures of Super Sammy and Marvelous Megan by Vanessa Caraveo

Greater the Expectations...Greater the Achievements! by Shirley Gholston Key, Ed.D.                

Queen Vernita Conquers the Volcanic Islands by Dr. Dawn Menge, Pamela Snyder

  

Fiction: Collection of Short Stories

Honorable Mention: A Way Out of Nowhere: Stories by Nancy Gerber              

  

Fiction: Novel

1st Place: The Crossroads of Logan Michaels by James Roberts

2nd Place: Running with the Wolves by J.E. Reed

Honorable Mention:

Solid Steel Knife by Michael Minton                      

At a Homeland Dell: Where's the Lost Key Kell? by Alene Adele Roy

Mikey and Me by William Andrews                       

In the Shadow of War by Patrick M. Garry                         

The God Child by Stuart Rawlings                           

Dead Men Don't Cry by Emory Cosgrove


Fine Art/Photography

1st Place: Mondays in October by Sheree K. Nielsen     


Graphic Novel

 1st Place: F'lorna of Rodesh by Alisa Hope Wagner, Albert Morales

 

Green Books/Environmental

1st Place (tie): And The Trees Began To Move by Lisa Gammon Olson, Lauren Rutledge             

1st Place (tie): Your Body's Environmental Chemical Burden by Cindy Klement

2nd Place: At a Homeland Dell: Where's the Lost Key Kell? by Alene Adele Roy

                 

Historical Nonfiction

1st Place (tie): And Then They Were Gone: Teenagers of Peoples Temple from High School to Jonestown by Judy Bebelaar and Ron Cabral

1st Place (tie): How Languages Saved Me: A Polish Story of Survival by Tadeusz Haska and Stefanie Naumann

2nd Place: Killing Pat Garrett, the Wild West's Most Famous Lawman - Murder or Self-Defense? by David G. Thomas

  

How-To

 1st Place (tie): The Mystery Shopper Training Program by Bethany Mooradian

1st Place (tie): I'm Your Daughter, Julie: Caring for a Parent with Dementia by Julie A. Gorges

 

Humor

 Honorable Mention: Horror at Terror Creek by Regan W. H. Macaulay               

 

Middle Grade Fiction

1st Place (tie): Hidden Scales by A.M. Robin

1st Place (tie): Life in the Grand Pause  by Frank Saraco

  

Mystery

1st Place (tie): Shadowed by Death: An Oliver Wright WWII Mystery by Mary Adler

1st Place (tie): Bones of Skull Island by M.A. Duvernet and Chase Stevens

2nd Place: The Red Hand by Michael Stephen Daigle

Honorable Mention:

At a Homeland Dell: Where's the Lost Key Kell? by Alene Adele Roy

Dead Men Don't Cry by Emory Cosgrove                            

Saxxons in Witherston: A Witherston Murder Mystery by Betty Jean Craige     

Tigers Love Bubble Baths & Obsession Perfume (who knew!) by Mary K. Savarese, Kellie Emery

 
New Author: Fiction

1st Place: The Curse of Purgatory Cove by Pete A. O'Donnell

2nd Place (tie): No Fish For Charles by Tracy Detz, Monika Suska

2nd Place (tie): Being Small (Isn't So Bad After All) by Lori Orlinsky, Vanessa Alexandre

Honorable Mention:

The Crossroads of Logan Michaels by James Roberts    

Bailey Brings Her Friends Together with Music by Kali Bate

Where Does the Man In The Moon Go During the Day? by Jared Jackson

Ellie and Her Emotional Dragons by Joseph Goodrich, Traci Van Wagoner

Mikey and Me by William Andrews                       

Jet & Scoot: A Story About Us by Stephanie Smith-Kenny, Lauren Looney

Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer

Tigers Love Bubble Baths & Obsession Perfume (who knew!) by Mary K. Savarese, Kellie Emery           

The Wonderful Adventures of Wandering Willy & Wendy: Willy Visits Japan    Charles Winslow and Brandon Taylor

 

 New Author: Nonfiction

1st Place: Midpoint by James Hill

2nd Place: The 50-Year Secret by Julie MacNeil

Honorable Mention:

How Languages Saved Me: A Polish Story of Survival by Tadeusz Haska and Stefanie Naumann

 

Other Nonfiction

 1st Place: And Then They Were Gone: Teenagers of Peoples Temple from High School to Jonestown by Judy Bebelaar and Ron Cabral

2nd Place: The Wrongful Conviction of Oscar Pistorius by Brent Willock

Honorable Mention:

Kia: A Puppy's Great Adventures by Anna Grob

 

Parenting

 1st Place: Autism Uncensored: Pulling Back the Curtain by Whitney Ellenby      

2nd Place: Raising Independent, Self-Confident Kids: Nine Essential Skills to Teach Your Child or Teen by Wendy L. Moss, PhD, and Donald A. Moses, MD 

Honorable Mention:

Strong Roots Have No Fear by Aditi Wardhan Singh

  

Philosophy

1st Place: Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer  

 

Picture Books 5 & Younger

1st Place (tie): Cami Kangaroo Has Too Many Sweets! by Stacy C. Bauer, Rebecca Sinclair

1st Place (tie): Cami Kangaroo Has Too Much Stuff! by Stacy C. Bauer, Rebecca Sinclair

1st Place (tie): Ellie and Her Emotional Dragons by Joseph Goodrich, Traci Van Wagoner

1st Place (tie): No Fish For Charles by Tracy Detz, Monika Suska             

1st Place (tie): Winston Versus the Snow by Savannah Hendricks, Liliya Todorova

2nd place: Tex the Explorer: Journey Around the Earth by Ellie Smith, Eyen Johnson

Honorable Mention:

The Cows Go Moo! by Jim Petipas                         

The Shapes That Tried To Escape by John McCoy, Anna Williams

Coco & Olive: The Color of Love by Michelle Madrid-Branch with Eviana Tiblet Branch, Erin Darling     

The Mustache Fairy by Adrianna Ahern Donat, William G.A. Roth

The Little Apple by Deborah Smith Ford, Susi Galloway

Just The Way That I Am by Tanya Fraser

  

Picture Books 6 & Older

 1st Place (tie): Ellie and Her Emotional Dragons by Joseph Goodrich, Traci Van Wagoner

1st Place (tie): I'll Always Clap for You by T. Lynn, Marty Petersen

1st Place (tie): Yazzy's Amazing Yarn by Cathey Nickell, Emily Calimlim

2nd Place (tie): Older by Emmanuella Macri

2nd Place (tie): Woulda Been by Penny Ledbetter, Krystal Smith

2nd Place (tie): My Name is Curly by Andi C. Kryszak, G.C. Schlea

Honorable Mention:

The Man Who Wanted to Pet Every Dog in the World by Bradley Holley, Emese Aalto

Another Tuesday at popcorn elementary teamwork by Meeka Wojo, Ivan Wojo

Albert by Beth W. Roberts                         

Chasing the Sun by Sirui Li, Kiki Kang    

When Kids Switch Houses  by Lauren Gould, Mary Biswas         

Esie Explores Beneficial Bacteria by Smiljka Kitanovic   

No, No, Elizabeth by Carmen K. Jimenez, Claudia Tenorio Pearl

On The Little Apple by Deborah Smith Ford, Susi Galloway

Tex the Explorer: Journey Around the Earth by Ellie Smith, Eyen Johnson

The Happiest Birthday Ever by Stephanie Berger

The Warrior Princess by D.L. Murphy                   

Monica and Michelle Travel the World by Vera Harris, Gaurav Bhatnager

No Fish For Charles by Tracy Detz, Monika Suska           

She Was Anacaona, The Golden Flower Queen by Viviana S. Torres, Maria Ocampo

Spreading Her Wings (Butterfly Princess) by Alisa Hope Wagner, Albert Morales           

The Little Apple by Deborah Smith Ford, Susi Galloway               

Imagine That: The Magic of the Mysterious Lights by George Yuhasz, Egle Bartolini

Charlie Wants to Play! by Alison Mays, Evan Clagg        

A Little Goat in Africa by Deborah Smith Ford, Susi Galloway

One Little Bella by Georgina Schroeder, Sam Balling     

Queen Vernita Conquers the Volcanic Islands by Dr. Dawn Menge, Pamela Snyder

Mighty Mommies and Their Amazing Jobs by Donald Jacobsen, Graham Evans

Jet & Scoot: A Story About Us by Stephanie Smith-Kenny, Lauren Looney

Oscar Goes to School by Meaghan Fisher and Emma Rose Fisher-Rowe, Timothy Rowe

  

Poetry

 1st Place: Mondays in October by Sheree K. Nielsen     

2nd Place: Walking on a Moonbeam And Other Views from the Creekbank by Bill McDonald

Honorable Mention:    

A Dime is a Sign by Sherrill S. Cannon, Kalpart  

Confessions of a Barefaced Woman by Allison Joseph 

  

Psychology

1st Place: Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer                  

2nd Place: The Wrongful Conviction of Oscar Pistorius by Brent Willock

  

Relationships

1st Place: At a Homeland Dell: Where's the Lost Key Kell? by Alene Adele Roy                

2nd Place: The Dancing Clock: Reflections on Family, Love, and Loss by Nancy Gerber

  

Religion/Spirituality

 1st Place: Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer  

2nd Place: Platinum Faith by Michelle Medlock Adams and Bethany Jett

Honorable Mention:

The God Child by Stuart Rawlings

 
Science Fiction/Fantasy

1st Place: Dragon's Truth by Leanne Pankuch

2nd Place: Running with the Wolves by J.E. Reed

Honorable Mention:

The God Child by Stuart Rawlings                           

F'lorna of Rodesh by Alisa Hope Wagner, Albert Morales           

A Foreign Shore: The Company of Women by Forrest Johnson, Liz Clarke

  

Self-Help/Inspirational

1st Place: I'm Your Daughter, Julie: Caring for a Parent with Dementia by Julie A. Gorges          

2nd Place: You Are Loved by Antonia Aviles, Lovyaa Garg

Honorable Mention:

The 50-Year Secret by Julie MacNeil      

Trail of the Warrior by R.H. Pfeiffer

 

Special Needs/Disability Awareness

 1st Place (tie): Autism Uncensored: Pulling Back the Curtain by Whitney Ellenby            

1st Place (tie): Myself, My Responsibility: Tools to Self-advocate by Lori Ciccarelli Stotko, MPS, Jeremy Brooks

2nd Place: To Root & To Rise: Accepting Brain Injury by Carole J. Starr, M.S.

 

Sports

 1st Place: Pace: A Book about Running, Not Running, and Taming My Inner ******* by Ann Mandt Hall           

                 

STEM

1st Place: Esie Explores Beneficial Bacteria by Smiljka Kitanovic

 

Travel

 Honorable Mention: Yes, the World is Round, Part I, Sailing in the Wake of Early Explorers and History Makers by Donna Hill          

 

Unpublished Manuscript

1st Place: Get Your Life Together, Girl by Danielle Vann

2nd Place: The Land of Sugary by Arthur C. Morton

Honorable Mention:

Jon and the Toymakers by Arthur C. Morton                    

Four Days by William Andrews

 

Young Adult Fiction

 1st Place: Shards of Light by Susan Miura

2nd Place: Remeon's Quest: Earth Year 1930 by J.W. Garrett    

Honorable Mention:

Neffatira's First Challenge by Tom Xavier                           

Dragon's Truth by Leanne Pankuch                       

The Crossroads of Logan Michaels by James Roberts    

At a Homeland Dell: Where's the Lost Key Kell? by Alene Adele Roy

Below the Moon: The 8th Island Trilogy, Book 2, A Novel by Alexis Marie Chute

Lizardville: Jimmy's Curse by Steve Altier, Philip Benjamin

The Toronto Embryo by Judith Fournie Helms                 

F'lorna of Rodesh by Alisa Hope Wagner, Albert Morales

Bones of Skull Island by M.A. Duvernet and Chase Stevens                                       

Saxxons in Witherston: A Witherston Murder Mystery by Betty Jean Craige     

 

 Young Adult Nonfiction

1st Place: Careering: The Pocket Guide to Exploring Your Future Career by Tamara Raymond

  

Youth Author Fiction

 Honorable Mention: Bailey Brings Her Friends Together with Music by Kali Bate

  

* E-Book Award Winners *

 

Best Cover Design

1st Place: The Sheriff's Catch by James Vella-Bardon

 

Best Illustrations

1st Place: Lacy's Magic Tree by L.F. Sarrouf, Lion Farrington

2nd Place: Pirate Bear by Sonya Song, Javier Ratti           

  

Biography/Autobiography/Memoir

1st Place: Not a Blueprint: It's the Shoe Prints That Matter - A Journey Through Toxic Relationships by Nina Norstrom

                                 

Children’s Poetry

1st Place: Lacy's Magic Tree by L.F. Sarrouf, Lion Farrington

2nd Place: City of More by Sonya Song, Daniel Howard

  

Cultural Diversity

Honorable Mention: Halloween at Lukes by Priya Pasumarthy

  

Green Books/Environmental

1st Place: Your Body's Environmental Chemical Burden by Cindy Klement

2nd Place: Lacy's Magic Tree by L.F. Sarrouf, Lion Farrington

 

Fiction: Novel

1st Place: The Sheriff's Catch by James Vella-Bardon

 

Historical Fiction

1st Place: The Sheriff's Catch by James Vella-Bardon

 

New Author: Fiction

Honorable Mention: Splish Splash Born in the Bath by Michelle Eliason, Katherine Olenic

  

Picture Books 5 & Younger

1st Place: Relay by Roy Lieberman          

2nd Place: Splish Splash Born in the Bath by Michelle Eliason, Katherine Olenic

                 

Picture Books 6 & Older


1st Place: Relay by Roy Lieberman

2nd Place: Persephone by Simon Spence

Honorable Mention:

A Family Dinner by Cory Q. Tan                               

A Dream by Cory Q. Tan                              

Theodore the Unfortunate Bear by Cory Q. Tan                              

City of More by Sonya Song, Daniel Howard

                                 

Poetry

1st Place: Cinema Stanzas Two: Poet Laureate of the Movies by Betty Jo Tucker

  

Special Needs/Disability Awareness

1st Place: Bipolar Disorder: Etiology and Treatment Overview: Mindfulness, Medication, Digital Psychiatry and Classroom Accommodations by Maria Santiago-Valentín                           

  

Young Adult Fiction

1st Place: Where You Lead by Leslea Wahl         

2nd Place: The Unity: A Predictive Fantasy by H. Barton Wilson

Honorable Mention:

The Secrets of Elimeare: Wielder of Light by Suzy Rosenow

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Raising Me (To Become a Good Dad)

by Paul Alan Ruben

As a child, I didn’t want to be like my father. I wanted to be him. As a son, I idealized and idolized him. His interests, beliefs, and feelings about the world defined my father. And me.

Evidently, I wasn’t alone. In his book, Under Saturn’s Shadow: the wounding and healing of men, noted Jungian psychologist, James Hollis, PhD, writes, “Every man carries a deep longing for his father.” Pulitzer Prize winning novelist, J.M. Coetzee, observes in his novel, Slow Man, “Those into whose lives you are born do not pass away.” These sentiments reflect my experience as a son. I’ve not met a man in my life who doesn’t feel similarly.

Unfortunately, my father wasn’t the ideal role model, to say the least. Growing up, I discovered early on that my father did not seem interested in me. I do not recall, for example, being praised, spending alone-time with him, doing whatever fathers and sons do that enhances their bond. Shocking as it may seem, I do not recall being told, “I love you,” ever. And his fiery temper left me as unsure of myself as I was of him.

Fast-forward to my becoming a father. The moment I looked down at my newborn son after my wife handed him to me, I vowed that I would be the parent and father I never had. For the first 12 years, if I do say so myself, parenting was a snap. I was an emotionally available dad, raising an effusive, loving, bright child. Hugs, kisses, praise, and “I love you” were my parenting staples. And when discipline was required, my actions and words informed my son that the object of my dismay was his behavior, not him. What I hid, however, was my lingering fear that eventually he would discover the truth—that I was not a good father, and that he would no longer love me. 

At 13 years old, my son’s attitude took a turn that was as stunning as it was inconceivable: this wonderful dad’s wonderful little boy I thought I knew, had transformed into an adolescent whose middling grades no longer matched his super intellect, verified by every standardized test and his previous teachers’ report cards. But what most rattled me was my teenager’s dismissiveness, and his willful expressions of independence. He may not have meant it personally, but quite frankly, I took it that way. I regarded these behaviors as a rejection of me, as a referendum on just how ineffectual a father I was. Finally, the truth. I was a fraudulent dad! I did not deserve his love! 

For the next few years, I found myself, more often than I care to recall, angrily responding to his adolescent sass the way that I had responded to my father’s rage: I withdrew emotionally, cloaking myself in silence, as if he didn’t exist. I shut down emotionally, vanished, and when he asked me if I was angry, I declared softly, flatly, “Me? No, why?” I could see that he was confused and hurt, but I was also hurt—too hurt to speak to him, too hurt and afraid to confront his various misbehaviors for fear he would withdraw his love for me. In short, I felt more like a wounded combatant than a dad.

Throughout my son’s adolescence and well into his twenties—especially when he lived at home with my wife and me while in graduate school—I often wondered, will my angry silences alienate my son, just as my father’s overt rage had alienated me? I feared this inner dialogue that replayed itself whenever any interaction created emotional dissonance between us—Why would he love me? I don’t—would create the outcome I most feared: father and son as intimate enemies. 

I had to do something. I sought and benefited from various insights—garnered from reading about parenting, periodic counseling, and relentless introspection about what being a dad actually meant. Over time, I discovered that I could hoist myself up from my excuses-mat (it’s all my tough childhood’s fault) and become an adult dad and grown-up human being that both my son and I could be proud of.

Over the past decades, raising me has been a challenging process. That said, I have discovered various raising-me pillars that continue to validate my journey to becoming that father I aspired to when my son was born. 

Be responsible for your behavior! The responsibility for how you treat your son isn’t your father’s, your difficult childhood’s, or your troubles at work. The responsibility for how a father treats his son is 100 percent the father’s, 0 percent the son’s, period. This parenting-responsibility principle is a process that commits you to acting as an adult dad and grown-up human being, and to taking responsibility for your parenting beliefs and behaviors, when they work and when they don’t.

Your feelings are your feelings, not the truth. Fathers are humans and all feel, at times, uncertain, inadequate, frightened, angry, even unloved. While these feelings are valid, because they emerge from within, they are feelings only! They do not reflect who you are: a good dad, a loving dad, who has always wanted the best for his son.

Be proud of YOU. Not because you are perfect or have all the answers. Rather, because you count. To yourself and your son. Think of it this way, how can a son be proud of his father, if a father is not proud of himself?

Reflect, Aspire, Actualize: It is unrealistic to imagine responsible parenting as a bar that, once grasped, means, Woo-hoo, I did it! Becoming a responsible dad and parent is a lifelong, three-pronged process: Reflection, Aspiration, Actualization. Consider your behavior, and in so doing, continue to refine the kind of dad you aspire to become. Then, difficult as it sometimes may be, make every effort to be that dad and human being.

See your son as his own person. In his seminal work, The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran speaks of our children: “They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.” Your son is deserving of and entitled to a father who sees and values him for who he is. This means reinforcing your son’s sense of self-respect, self-possession, and self-love.

Let your son know that he matters. When in your presence, your actions and words must first and foremost tell your son: I see you. I hear you. I acknowledge you. I encourage you. I can disagree with you, critique you, punish you, while always respecting you. You are emotionally safe with me. I love you without condition.

In his book, Living an Examined Life, Dr. Hollis writes that successful parenting is located “…in the child who understands that he or she is seen and valued for who they are … It sounds so simple, yet proves so rare.” Today, my greatest raising-me challenge remains becoming the adult dad and grown-up human being I aspire to be. Rome isn’t built in a day. Nor a lifetime. I am, however, proudly building Rome.

Paul Alan Ruben is a two-time Grammy winning audiobook producer and author of the short story collection, Terms of Engagement: stories of the father and son. He lives in Brooklyn, NY.